You know that feeling you get when you walk into a classroom and see someone else’s stuff on your desk OK, sure, there are no assigned seats, but you’ve been sitting at the same desk since the first day and everyone knows it.
So why does the guy who sits next to you put his phone, his book, his charger, his lunch, and his laptop in the space that’s rightfully yours? It’s annoying! All you want to do was walk in, sit down, get out your notebook and (try to) pay attention.
But now Now you’ve got to talk to a stranger about moving their stuff and there goes your day, already bogged down with petty annoyances. Sound familiar? It should.
We’ve all got so much to do these days that interacting with people we see every day not our friends, but our classmates, fellow commuters, co-workers, the people in line for coffee with us every day can feel like a burden. So, when these people do something we perceive as annoying, like putting their stuff on our desks, we don’t have the time or the energy to assume their intentions or think about the lives they’re leading.
Now, every single time I walk into class this guy says "Ah, Tom. You here. Okay." And starts frantically clearing my desk of his belongings. He then makes it a habit to say "Ready for class, yeah?" And gives me a high five. Every day this guy gives me a high five.— Thomas McFall (@thomas___mcfall) April 9, 2018
But if we stepped out of ourselves for a second, we might just realize that we’re all much more connected than we think, that our preconceived notions of others are usually just that preconceived. And, often, inaccurate.
I ended up going into class and of course he cleared the seat and said "Ah, Tom. You here. Okay." And I did get a high five.— Thomas McFall (@thomas___mcfall) April 9, 2018
At the end of class I ended up asking him if he wanted to get a bite to eat with me. We did. And we talked for a while. I got through the broken English
That’s why this Twitter story about a guy who learned an important life lesson from a classmate he was frustrated with is going viral. It’s the perfect example of that “don’t judge a book by its cover” adage we should have all learned in preschool but sometimes forget. And it starts the exact same way as this post with a college student groaning on the inside as he sees someone’s stuff on his desk.
It was then that I realized this guy wasn't putting stuff on my seat to annoy me. He was saving me the seat every morning.— Thomas McFall (@thomas___mcfall) April 9, 2018
And this whole time he saw me as a friend but I was too busy thinking about myself to take him into consideration.
Cheesy as it sounds, I was touched.
If not for this one day running late, McFall may have never realized what his classmate was trying to do. And he may have continued to think of him as annoying, maybe telling others about “the weird guy who was always trying to take up my space” when all the guy was really trying to do was be kind.
We all misinterpret the actions of others sometimes. It’s easy to do that! But if there’s one thing this story reminds us, it’s that it’s important to stop and remember that while you’re living your life, other people are living theirs, so assuming best intentions can do us a great favor.
I asked him how he liked America as well. He said he misses his family but it's exciting to be here. He also said "Not every American is nice to me like you are, Tom."— Thomas McFall (@thomas___mcfall) April 9, 2018
I bought lunch, of course. Dude deserves it. He gave me a high five for buying lunch. Gotta keep up tradition.
That’s why we should step outside of our bubbles and engage with the world on a regular basis. You could make a new friend. You might brighten someone’s day.
But most importantly, getting out of your own head, checking your own biases, and giving others the benefit of the doubt will make you a more compassionate person. You don’t have to engage with everyone you meet, but the next time someone smiles and offers you a high-five? Maybe just take them up on it.
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