This isn’t a story about me, it’s a story about every woman alive. We are underappreciated, misunderstood and disrespected by the men we think of as partners for life.
Those men think that disrespect isn’t such a huge deal but believe me, it’s the thing that can ruin a relationship forever. My mother used to tell me that a man who doesn’t respect me automatically doesn’t deserve me. She was right.
The way a man holds you shows if he respects you.
With a gentle touch, like he’s going to break you if he tries touching you roughly. It feels like you’re so fragile in his hands and he has the power to turn you into pieces but he respects you and that’s when you know that he deserves you. You can see that he respects you in the way he talks to you. When he talks with a gentle voice that doesn’t offend you in any way, shape or form.
When he lets you say what you have to say and doesn’t interrupt you. And, of course, when he listens. He remembers every single detail, which just shows that he loves you and that he deserves you. A sign of respect is the amount of effort he puts into the relationship. When he respects you, nothing is too much for him to do, he’s not scared to climb a mountain to make you happy and to show you how much he cares for you.
He shows it in the little things. He might not even be aware of those little things but you for sure are. You see the way he looks at you and the way he looks at other women. You see the way his eyes shine when he looks at you and the way he runs to you for just one hug or kiss.
Those things we think of as little are the things that show the biggest respect of all. If he doesn’t respect you, he’ll break your boundaries.
The boundaries that say what you’re ready to do and how much you’re ready to give yourself to the relationship are starting to break because of the fact that he isn’t able to respect them. He forces you, telling you that love says you should give in to your partner. If he does this, he doesn’t deserve you. Respect means to know when it’s enough and when you should give your partner the space needed to think. It’s not just about forcing what you think to be right but to hear their side of the story. Respect is so much more than what we think it is.
It’s the fundamental thing that keeps every healthy relationship stable.
It’s what makes us fall in love with the other person even more and what keeps us going on the days when we think our relationship is falling apart. When a man is able to respect the woman in his life, he’s able to conquer the world. The man I’m with now shows me his respect by listening to me and always telling me how much he appreciates me. He shows me that it’s all right to cry, because that’s who I am, and he respects me enough to love me without the need to change me.
Isn’t that what a real man is all about? Knowing that you are able to break the heart of a woman but still choosing to love and respect her unconditionally? A man who doesn’t respect a woman doesn’t deserve her. Not just her but any woman ever. Because he’s not able to love or feel compassion. He’s not able to give her the life she deserves. Disrespecting her means breaking her, piece by piece, and no woman deserves that.
This article was originally published on the herway.net